{"id":1116,"date":"2026-05-15T16:07:38","date_gmt":"2026-05-15T16:07:38","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/emprepinc.com\/cyl\/?p=1116"},"modified":"2026-05-15T18:51:55","modified_gmt":"2026-05-15T18:51:55","slug":"leader-how-do-you-treat-yourself-the-deep-psychology-of-self-regard","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/emprepinc.com\/cyl\/index.php\/2026\/05\/15\/leader-how-do-you-treat-yourself-the-deep-psychology-of-self-regard\/","title":{"rendered":"Leader, How Do You Treat Yourself?\u2014The Deep Psychology of Self-Regard"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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As a leader, you won\u2019t always hold the reins in every area of your life. You may find yourself on the receiving end of mistreatment or subtle attempts to \u201cput you in your place.\u201d Often, these behaviors stem not from your shortcomings, but from the other person\u2019s insecurity. The real question in those moments is: How do you treat yourself?<\/p>

The Crucial Lesson I Learned in the Courtroom<\/strong><\/p>

Early in my legal career, I encountered a judge who treated me with an unusual level of hostility. I was respectful and did my job well, but it became clear that my presence as a Black woman attorney was unfamiliar to him, and perhaps unsettling. After one particularly difficult day in his courtroom, I made a quiet promise to myself: that one day, he would have to stand before me. But until that day arrived, I resolved to treat myself like I mattered\u2014because I did. My career depended on it, and so did the fate of my clients.<\/p>

Years later, life offered a surprising twist. That same judge lost his seat and returned to private practice. One of his cases landed in my hearing room\u2014I was now the state\u2019s hearing officer. He was so uncomfortable with the reversal of roles that he opted to settle the case out of court rather than appear before me.<\/p>

The Inner Struggle\u2014and the Importance of Support<\/strong><\/p>

In the thick of mistreatment, it\u2019s natural to question how to respond. I leaned on a trusted mentor who encouraged me to persevere. My faith also played a vital role, anchoring my confidence and reminding me of my worth. The key was treating myself with the dignity I deserved\u2014not just as someone competent, but as someone who excelled in her field. I mattered\u2014to myself and to those who relied on me.<\/p>

The Real Battle: Self-Perception<\/strong><\/p>

Often, the greatest obstacle isn\u2019t how others see us, but how we see ourselves. Our self-perception shapes how we treat ourselves\u2014and sets the standard for what we\u2019re willing to accept from others. If you believe you matter, you\u2019ll act accordingly. You\u2019ll demand respect, not just from the world, but from yourself first.<\/p>

So, leader: How do you treat yourself when others try to diminish you? Your answer might just determine the outcome of your most important battles.<\/p>

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Go deeper. Take the course.\u00a0 Click here<\/a> for more information.<\/strong><\/p>

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As a leader, you won\u2019t always hold the reins in every area of your life. You may find yourself on the receiving end of mistreatment or subtle attempts to \u201cput you in your place.\u201d Often, these behaviors stem not from your shortcomings, but from the other person\u2019s insecurity. The real question in those moments is: […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1117,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[26,25,20,18],"tags":[61,51,59,48,44,57,55,33,54,32,58,56,60,34],"class_list":["post-1116","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-learning-life","category-spiritual-life","category-winning-in-business","category-winning-personally","tag-black-women-leaders","tag-confidence","tag-diversity-in-leadership","tag-empowerment","tag-leadership","tag-mindset","tag-overcoming-adversity","tag-personal-development","tag-professional-growth","tag-resilience","tag-self-perception","tag-self-worth","tag-women-in-leadership","tag-workplace-challenges","has-post-title","has-post-date","has-post-category","has-post-tag","has-post-comment","has-post-author",""],"builder_content":"

As a leader, you won\u2019t always hold the reins in every area of your life. You may find yourself on the receiving end of mistreatment or subtle attempts to \u201cput you in your place.\u201d Often, these behaviors stem not from your shortcomings, but from the other person\u2019s insecurity. The real question in those moments is: How do you treat yourself?<\/p>

The Crucial Lesson I Learned in the Courtroom<\/strong><\/p>

Early in my legal career, I encountered a judge who treated me with an unusual level of hostility. I was respectful and did my job well, but it became clear that my presence as a Black woman attorney was unfamiliar to him, and perhaps unsettling. After one particularly difficult day in his courtroom, I made a quiet promise to myself: that one day, he would have to stand before me. But until that day arrived, I resolved to treat myself like I mattered\u2014because I did. My career depended on it, and so did the fate of my clients.<\/p>

Years later, life offered a surprising twist. That same judge lost his seat and returned to private practice. One of his cases landed in my hearing room\u2014I was now the state\u2019s hearing officer. He was so uncomfortable with the reversal of roles that he opted to settle the case out of court rather than appear before me.<\/p>

The Inner Struggle\u2014and the Importance of Support<\/strong><\/p>

In the thick of mistreatment, it\u2019s natural to question how to respond. I leaned on a trusted mentor who encouraged me to persevere. My faith also played a vital role, anchoring my confidence and reminding me of my worth. The key was treating myself with the dignity I deserved\u2014not just as someone competent, but as someone who excelled in her field. I mattered\u2014to myself and to those who relied on me.<\/p>

The Real Battle: Self-Perception<\/strong><\/p>

Often, the greatest obstacle isn\u2019t how others see us, but how we see ourselves. Our self-perception shapes how we treat ourselves\u2014and sets the standard for what we\u2019re willing to accept from others. If you believe you matter, you\u2019ll act accordingly. You\u2019ll demand respect, not just from the world, but from yourself first.<\/p>

So, leader: How do you treat yourself when others try to diminish you? Your answer might just determine the outcome of your most important battles.<\/p>

\u00a0<\/p>

Go deeper. Take the course.\u00a0 Click here<\/a> for more information.<\/strong><\/p>

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